#27 - Complete

I have been debating about whether or not to write about this particular item.  Though it is number 27 on the official list, this was actually the thing weighing on my mind in the first place to get this bucket list going.  So here it is:  Number 27 - Either be engaged or be single.  After spending 6.5 years of my life with Eddie, I realized it was time to make a change.  Both of us were too complacent with each other and I couldn't decide whether this was the relationship I wanted for the rest of my life - for a marriage.  I did a lot of soul searching the past three months to really think about what I wanted in life and where I see myself going.  And I came to the conclusion that it was time for the relationship to end.

I haven't wanted to write about it here for a few reasons:  1) I didn't want Eddie to think that I've only thought of him as a bucket list item.  That is obviously not the case.  It just happens to be that while I was doing my thinking on our relationship, the idea of an actual bucket list also entered my head.  2) We haven't told everyone in our lives that we are no longer together.  Our family and closest friends know, but we've kept the split on the DL.  3) While on paper I thought about this as a chance for me to be either engaged or single, in my heart I was ready to end the relationship - thus not giving it a real try to fix to see if we could work things out.  4) This isn't a happy thing to write about - and I like to be happy.

Eddie and I will continue to remain very close friends.  He has moved out of our house and started renting a really cute apartment in a very fun Portland neighborhood.  I feel that ending our relationship and moving forward is giving me a new outlook on Portland - it feels like a fun new city all over again. Though it's hard now, I truly believe this was the best decision to make.  I can see us both being happier in the future this way.

I suppose that's really all there is to say about this.  Thank you to everyone who has stood by my side the past few months to help me work this out.  And thank you to everyone going forward who will continue to support me - to pick me up when I'm feeling down, to leave me alone when I need my space, to give me a hug when I need it...

Now to end with something a little lighter.  I have made some progress on item #15 - listening to the top 30 best selling albums.  Pink Floyd's The Wall clocks in at number 29 on this list - it's what I chose to listen to on repeat the day after breaking up with Eddie.  It is a perfectly moody album that can take you on a great journey.  I remember purchasing this album from Rasputin's (a used record store) in high school.  I was a new driver and it was a rainy day - and I was so excited to have the freedom to take myself to the record store and get whatever I wanted.  I drove around listening to this in the rain enjoying every second of it.  It has been many years since I last sat down and listened to this in its entirety, but I still love it.  I'm sure others will disagree, but I think this is a perfectly recorded album.  There are so many moving parts between the vocals, the instruments, the background noises, etc...  I have yet to listen to this with a great set of headphones, but I'm sure it would be incredible.

Depending on what's happening in my life, different songs from this album will stand out differently to me.  That being said, the one clear winning track for me has been, and probably always will be, "Comfortably Numb."  I just think it is so cool.

Now go give it a listen.

Oh yes.  One of the albums coming up on the list is the Titanic motion picture soundtrack.  If you happen to own this and are willing to let me borrow it, I would be very happy with you!  I'm not too keen on shelling out $10 for it if I can avoid it...

And now because I don't have any photos to go with my bucket list blogs, here are a few recent photos to show you what I've been up to:

Birthday lunch with my coworkers  :-)

Out for drinks with the winery gals

Dinner with the Sokol Blosser gals

#28 - COMPLETE!

First of all, I finally have my list of 30!  But I'm reserving the right to swap out up to three things in case someone has an amazing suggestion that can knock out one of my less-creative items.

#28 was added to my list on a whim - and I did it last night so I am officially crossing one item off my list.  I thought my first crossing off would be for something at least minutely meaningful, but that is definitely not the case here.  C'est la vie.

Sorry to be so vague up to this point.  While my post about it will be G-rated, the activity itself was not.  So grandmas and other relatives should stop reading now.

Eddie and I were having dinner with a new group of friends last night.  One mentioned going to the Acropolis Steakhouse & Strip Club sometime after dinner to celebrate his friend's birthday.  I semi-jokingly said that I have never done that and that it had potential to be a bucket list item - and naturally we were invited to attend.  Portlandia is said to have more strip clubs per capita than San Francisco or Las Vegas.  So you see where this is going now...

All I will say is that it was an interesting evening.

So now in a futile attempt to redeem myself, I have to tell you that I am working on #15 as I compose this.  I thought it would be fun to listen to the 30 best-selling albums of all time.  Appropriate for me, no?  I'm going off of Wikipedia's list which conveniently has exactly 30 albums that have sold 30 million units or more.  I'm not too jazzed about the fact that this list includes compilations and greatest hits, but that will be fine.

I decided to start at the bottom with Nirvana's Nevermind.  I can't believe this thing is 21 years old -  that's crazy!  I don't remember when I last listened to it all the way through so it's been fun hearing it all tonight.  Such a great album!  A couple of these songs have consistently been on my gym playlist for the past ten years - "Lithium" takes the cake in that department with "In Bloom," "Breed," and "Polly" right behind.

I don't have a real clear first memory of Nirvana, but definitely remember that my mom bought this album when it came out - when CDs were in the longbox packaging.  My cool mom saved all of her CD boxes and tacked them up in our garage. It was a really cool display of some albums from the late 80s / early 90s.  Anyhoo.  As a kid, this album cover always made me laugh since the photo is of the naked boy in the pool.

One down and twenty-nine adventures to go!

Introducing Thirty Things

Hello.  Life happened *forcing* me to take a 16-month hiatus from blog writing.  It was probably a good stopping point as I don't think "New to Oregon" is an appropriate blog title for someone who had been living in the state for more than a year.

But I digress.  What brings me back?  Well, a lot of reflection on life.  I am turning 29 next month which has gotten me thinking about the big 3-0.  I've wondered if I've been doing everything I can to live a fulfilling life up to this point.  And I realized there are some experiences I have missed out on and one thing led to another and I started thinking about composing a bucket list of thirty things to complete before my 30th birthday in 2013.

So I put my thinking cap on and tried to compile a list of trips, activities, must-see local things, etc... that would be super cool (and feasible) to do.  I have come up with twenty-two(ish) things - some more meaningful than others (getting a stamp in my passport is more meaningful than going to a drag show) but I need your help rounding out this list.  I have tried to produce a balanced list of travel & local activities, expensive and free, thrilling and chill, etc...

And now I turn to you for your input.  Put your thinking caps on and get creative!  What should I try to do in my twenty-ninth year to make it meaningful?  Learn a new activity?  Try a new sport?  Take a special vacation?  Try yoga?  That one's for you Mom, though it probably won't make my final cut.

I promise to have my complete list of thirty things on or before my birthday this year.  The catch?  I won't actually share it with you then.  I will update this blog as I cross items off this list so you will only learn about them as I complete them.  Sounds fun, no?

So start thinking about this and let me know what your ideas are.  I am very excited to get some new perspectives on my bucket list.

Thank you!  :-)

Have You Forgotten?

Not much to say about tonight.  I had to work a full shift today so I didn't get to spend too much time with Mom & Kiki.  They dropped me off at my winery and did a quick tasting before heading out to the coast for the day.  They picked me up at the end of my shift and then we met Eddie at Hopworks Urban Brewery.  We actually ate here for my birthday the last time my mom was in town but she liked it so much we wanted to go back tonight.  Dinner was great and came with some surprising news...  The TVs around the bar announced the death of bin Laden.  It was very surreal getting that kind of news at a bar.

We made a quick stop at Voodoo Doughnut for a fun dessert before heading back to the hotel.  Eddie joined us at the hotel where we sipped on some wine and watched the breaking news unfold.  Oh.  And Kiki gave me her old iPhone so I started setting that up.  It's definitely going to take some getting used to, but I think I might actually learn to like it.

If you're curious about the doughnuts...  From left to right:  Eddie's Voodoo Doll; my "no name" (raised doughnut w/ chocolate, Rice Krispies, & peanut butter drizzle); Kiki's plain sprinkle; and Mom's chocolate & peanut butter (not sure what the name is).

My media mention is a show Eddie and I finished a couple weeks ago.  Top Chef All Stars was great this season!  I was bummed that Casey & Jen didn't make it further in the season, but I was pleased with the outcome.  I wish they would have let the final face-off include the final three chefs because I would have loved to see what Antonia could have come up with.  I think my favorite part was watching the reunion show with Andy from Bravo.  I had no idea Antonia was so cursed when it came to her teammates!  Hilarious.  I also loved the Marcel auto-tuned clip.  Very funny stuff they put together.

Visitors

I had a great time tonight!  Just a few weeks ago Mom & Kiki planned a trip to Portland for a quick visit with me.  I was excited to have them fly in tonight.  They took an early evening flight which allowed me to work a full day before picking them up.  I wish I could have taken the day off work, but I think we managed to do a lot of stuff tonight.  After checking into the hotel (totally cool that they upgraded us to a huge suite), we walked to Mama Mia Trattoria for a beautiful dinner.  I ordered the pizza because I was dying to try the house-made mozzarella.  Delicious!

We walked around after dinner and found ourselves at Barrel Room.  We really enjoyed the dueling pianos show.  We didn't stay long, but they played some great songs.  The crowd was really going wild during Cee Lo Green's "F*** You."  This was my second time checking out their show...  It's still not my favorite for dueling pianos, but I love that they have a guitarist and drummer to call on stage to perform more rock-y songs.  That makes it fun.

I don't remember the name of the place, but Mom got a coffee at one of the food carts with late-night hours.  I'm not a coffee drinker, but I need to go back to this place because they serve Belgian waffles.  It smelled so delicious.  :-)  Our evening ended at Henry's Tavern with a final round of drinks and a cup of soup for Kiki & Mom to split.  I have to work tomorrow so we don't get to spend the day together, but I'm looking forward to the evening...

Finished another mystery today.  Shocker, I know. This one was John Sandford's Rules of Prey the first in the Lucas Davenport series.  One thing I really appreciated about this book was Sandford's attention to police procedure.  I think those details are often overlooked in mysteries - especially in popular television programming like CSI.  I also enjoyed the characters so I wouldn't mind picking up the next book in the series to see where it takes me.

Quick Update

I am loving the new winery so far!  They let me take my first Saturday & Sunday off to give me time to explore wineries in the area.  Since I had just been out tasting the Ribbon Ridge AVA with my friend, Laura a few weeks ago, I wanted to focus on wineries I had never been to.  I spent Saturday visiting the places on Worden Hill Rd.  One of my favorite stops was the Black Walnut Inn.  They are not normally open for wine tasting but since there was a weekend passport tasting event, they opened up their patio for passersby.  What made this tasting so unique was that they offered a full lunch.  Granted, it wasn't a big menu to choose from, but they had three different entrees.  I ordered the burger & fries knowing I could enjoy it with a glass of wine on their gorgeous patio.  The owners were so cute when I explained my picky eating; they brought me upstairs to sit in the kitchen and personally direct the chef (their son).  It was awesome chatting with him as he prepared my custom meal.

Last night we got our friends together for a beer club meet up.  Basically it's everyone at Eddie's winery who likes beer plus me.  We had the first meet up about a year ago at our Tualatin apartment.  Unfortunately we're only able to find the time to get together every few months or so, but it's always fun.  We pick a different theme for the type of beer everyone should bring (last time was all about stouts) and then we drink and have fun.  Eddie scored a free room at the Hotel Monaco through his work so we decided to meet there.  The theme was "anything goes" so we had quite a variety of brews in the room.

After hanging out for a while, we were starting to get hungry.  Someone mentioned poutine which seemed to stick on everyone's minds.  We knew we were just a few blocks from The Original which serves the dish.  Then I piped up that I'm on their email list and just received a blast about their new poutine eating challenge.  That pretty much sealed the deal so we packed up and walked the few blocks to the restaurant.  Everyone at the table placed an order for poutine while I had a bacon & egg breakfast. Davin went balls-out and went for the poutine challenge - five pounds of fries, gravy, and cheese to be consumed in 30 minutes or less.  When I saw the plate come out, I was actually hopeful for him.  Five pounds of fries didn't look as big as I thought it would.  In the challenge of man vs. poutine, poutine won.  I honestly believe Davin could have done it if he hadn't just spent the last few hours drinking beers.  It was still fun to watch and the restaurant gave him the free t-shirt in the end.  

I got to finish my book before everyone arrived at the hotel last night.  Paul Christopher's Michelangelo's Notebook reads like his templar novels.  Fast-paced mystery with similar characters.  I think I need to force myself to read at a slower pace though because all the books I've been reading are starting to blend together.  They all follow similar plots and have the same flow.  And then the characters & love interests in all these books are so similar.  It makes it really hard to keep each book separate in my mind.  That being said, reading his books is an enjoyable way to pass time.  I'm sure that a month from now I won't be able to recall any specific details of this book, but at least during the hours I spent reading this I was entertained.

First Thursday

I love having great weather when fun things are happening downtown.  Every first Thursday of the month, art galleries in Portland stay open late and pour free wine for people like me who can't afford art but like to look at it.  Eddie and I did the art walk a few months ago, but we didn't really know where to go and kind of missed out on some things.  It was still fun, but I was eager to get out and try it again.

We started out with a round of happy hour drinks at Three Degrees.  I just learned that their happy goes until 7pm which is great since most happy hours end too early at 6:00.  This place is at the end of the line of shops on the river by our apartment and we hadn't checked it out yet.  I gave their burger a try since it's half off during happy hour - and unfortunately they didn't have a discount on their mac n cheese.  Their mac is topped with goldfish crackers.  It sounds cute and yummy so I'll just have to bite the bullet and pay full price for it one day.  Anyhoo...  I was not impressed with the burger.  I've had fresher and better.  I certainly wouldn't pay full price for this, but $6 for a full size burger & fries is not bad.

Next we headed toward the art galleries we saw a few months ago (on 1st St. just south of Burnside).  I was sidetracked by the beautiful sunset and insisted on snapping a few photos.  This is a picture of the Hawthorne Bridge.

I was so happy to find the Attic Gallery open to us again.  This was my favorite stops the last time we went out because I fell in love with Lilli Faville's sculptures.  I think they are so fun and funky.  These ceramic dogs were on display again tonight. I don't think I'll ever get tired of looking at them.

One of the galleries was closed when we walked by a few months ago but they were open tonight so we went in.  It's actually a chiropractor's office that apparently doubles as a gallery.  They were featuring illustrations from Dan Murphy-Hecht.  Eddie enjoyed these more than I - baby bottles & diapers meet war.  Interesting concept, but not my cup of tea. I just checked out the artist's website and he has an impressive resume - he's created some designs for the Rockband games and Guitar Hero II.  This was also a cool spot because Eddie and I were given free back & shoulder massages which felt so nice.

I was ready to head to the Pearl to visit the galleries up there because I had been told that's where the main event really is.  Eddie and I cut over on Everett St. and stayed there the rest of the night.  There were so many galleries back-to-back within a few blocks of each other on Everett.  My favorite stop in this string was the Werks Gallery.  They were featuring Chris Cole's Oceanic show mixing abstract art and kinetic sculptures.  This gallery was packed!  Everyone seemed drawn in by the kinetic sculptures.  If you click on his link, you'll get an idea of what they were like.  Every piece in the gallery fit in with the "oceanic" theme.  The sculptures were cool because they were interactive designs of fish with hand cranks that allowed the viewer to get involved and make the fish move.  Pretty cool.  I felt dumb though because it wasn't until after we walked around the whole gallery that I finally realized all the paintings I just saw contained fish.  Eddie got it right away, but to me these colorful works reminded me of old pog designs.  I just didn't look closely enough.

We finished checking out the galleries on Everett and decided it was time to head home.  We took our sweet time and meandered around the downtown streets.  We found a few fun things to take pictures of; notably the umbrella statue Eddie wanted to kiss.  Needless to say, it was an entertaining walk home.

I have another library book to review for my media mention.  I wish I had enjoyed the story as much as the cover.  That sounds rough, but Hillary Davidson's The Damage Done was not a polished story.  I understand that it's her first novel, but it had a pretty simple plot and tried too hard to hide the ending.  I think when the author tries too hard to cover their plot twits, it only makes it easier to guess where they are actually going.  It didn't help that I never grew attached to any of the characters.  That usually makes the story more interesting to read.